He found me on Gumtree!

May 2014 – January 2015

Andy answers an ad on gumtree, I’m looking for a roommate. I later discover at the time he at least had his girlfriend of 6 years who he lived with in Bellerive and a girlfriend in Sydney.

His lies include;  his age, being recently single, that he’s a lawyer and brothel owner based in Sydney who works away a lot, he owned a traffic control business in Hobart and later, his residential address.

He was incredibly jealous, if I ever mentioned something as insignificant as I’d changed the sheets he’d question who I’d had over.  He demanded I wouldn’t see other people (I wasn’t).

I got sick of his absences every second weekend, his unavailability on the phone, his apparent long work hours at Downer.

Not convinced of his stories I started to look for answers.

April 2015:
He finally makes a mistake regarding social media and I get his Facebook name (Andy David) he accidentally sends me a friend request and his second life in Sydney is revealed.

He smears this woman with any lie he can think of. He begs me not to tell her. Tears, anger, manipulation, tells me she will commit suicide and it would be my fault, promises to get professional psychological help. He did it all – I contacted her anyway.

December 2015
His father is killed in a car crash and I feel sympathy. After not hearing for a few days I go over to his house to check in and offer my sympathies. A woman is at the house, he is not. I foolishly decide she must be the cleaning lady, I’ve seen her walking his dog before too.

March 2016
He tells me he’s selling the hair salon he had with the Sydney girlfriend (story goes it’s my fault they broke up but stayed in the business for financial reasons). He tells me a story about others being involved in fraudulent financial activities regarding the business and he just wants to get rid of it.

He’s home in Tassie more regularly so I buy the story of the break up and we become friends again. Catching up for mid week lunch or coffee.
He continues to tell elaborate stories about his brothel (which I had already searched the abn – Cuzzas Pty Ltd if you’re interested – and street address etc and concluded it had been closed for some time. Potentially barely getting off the ground). His traffic control business that he wasn’t even a director of was under external administration and in financial ruin.

Everyday I remember a new story or lie he’s previously told.
i was quite lucky compared to many women who have shared their stories, i am a tiny bit sad for the small part that I believe he was genuinely my friend.
However, I can’t ever forgive the terrible things he’s done and continues to do to good women who give and have given him their hearts or for his children.

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